Seriously?

Apparently I have a lot to say today.

I have this friend. Lets call her Nurse, since apparently I like to use occupations as names. So I met Nurse at my college part-time job. She is a little older, but had gone back to school. At first she drove me crazy, and she still kinda does, but for some reason I still love her and want to be her friend. Well at least until recently.

She dated this guy, lets call him Loser (he doesn't HAVE a real job) for a few years. I was around when they started dating so I have heard about this thing from the beginning. Things were good, and we were the kind of friends to talk endlessly about our relationships (or my lack thereof). After about 2 years he moved an hour or so away and everything changed. He lived with his parents at the age of 28, and never came to see her. She went up there ALL the time, made ALL the sacrifices and started to dream of getting engaged and married. Right. So he treats her like dirt, and it becomes obvious that he is cheating on her. She lets him. This goes on forever. Her grandmother dies, and instead of being there for her, offering to go to the funeral, etc. he lies to her to meet up with The Other Woman. She calls me crying on a regular basis. I try and try and try to talk her into dumping him. What I wanted to say was GROW A SPINE AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF! DEMAND BETTER! But you can't make someone do this. They have to come to that conclusion on their own.

She eventually breaks up with him, but they got back together and she moved to where he lives. Still no talk of any kind of long-term commitment, which she still wants. He never meets her family, her friends, never makes any effort. He continues to cheat on her (with the same chick and maybe others) and she FINALLY dumps him again. Well, I just talked to her and she told me he is trying to get her back. I asked her what she thought about this and she totally avoided my question.

What the fuck is up with these chicks? I am SO tired of listening to her talk about him. Can you "dump" a friend over something like this? I love her to pieces but if she doesn't straighten this shit out I don't think I can take it. I know that I am far from perfect. But I also know that I would not let myself get in a situation like that. Why does this get to me so much? It drives me NUTS. This guy is a total piece of shit cheating bastard. 30 years old and living with his parents. She lets him get away with everything, so he does. Does she think this would get better over the years? If they get married will it magically fix these faults? Hell no! It will get worse. How does she not see that? It has been like 5 years at this point. No talk of commitment, and she is wasting her time. She says she wants a family, wants to get married soon. I want her to know that there is better out there. There is someone who will treat her right, someone she can trust. She doesn't have to settle. She is a great girl, really cute, with a great personality and good career.

I can't decide if I am just a control freak trying to run her life or what. But I do know that I have hit my limit.