I have been thinking a lot about cohabitation since I got my new job. I think I want to go for it. I will be working from home, and I think working at home and living alone might be enough to drive my social-interaction-needing self completely insane. Plus, with the raise I will be able to afford a bigger place. WS currently lives at home with his parents about 45 minutes away and commutes to the law school which is right next to me. I know it would be so much easier for him to live here in town. Plus I just want to be around him all the time. It is looking like we will be engaged soonish, and it just seems like why not? He stays at my house a lot as it is.
We have talked about living together a ton in relation to getting married, etc. but never about specific times. Lately it has seemed more imminent, like we aren't talking about years from now. I just think it would be so amazing for us to have a place together, and to have our dogs, and start our life as a family. I know he would never bring it up, since I would be the one paying rent. I want to ask him if he would think about it/consider it. It would still be about 6 months away, but I figured we could start planning, etc.
Is this crazy? I feel so open and honest with him about things, but every time I start to bring it up I choke. I feel like a guy about to propose. I figure he will say yes, but what if he says no?? Any advice?
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My only advice is just to make sure you're doing it for the right reasons and NOT b/c of money/convenience - although those can be bonuses! If you are, then go for it! I believe in cohabitating before marriage b/c I think that unless you live together first, you never really know what you're getting into. So it's definitely a great next step in the relationship department! Very exciting!
Ah, I suck at advice in this area because I'm sort of going through the same thing.
Maybe rather than asking WS outright maybe suggest having a real, candid conversation about your plans and when you want to live together and see where the conversation goes?
Or go for it. I highly doubt he'll say no :)
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